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As an escort, you are bound to encounter difficult clients at some point. How do you handle them without compromising your safety or professionalism?

The escort industry is a unique one, and dealing with clients requires a certain level of skill and tact. While most clients are respectful and easy to work with, there are some who can be challenging, demanding, or even abusive. Knowing how to handle difficult clients is essential for any escort who wants to succeed in this line of work.

Handling difficult clients as an escort requires a combination of assertiveness, communication skills, and self-care. Whether it’s setting boundaries, managing expectations, or knowing when to say no, there are several strategies that can help you navigate challenging situations with grace and confidence. In this article, we will explore some of the most effective ways to handle difficult clients and maintain your safety and professionalism as an escort.

Client constantly touching the condom

One of the biggest concerns for sex workers when it comes to difficult clients is safety. Any time a client behaves in a way that makes the worker feel uncomfortable, it’s important to have a plan of action to address the situation. One common issue that may arise during sexual encounters is when a client is constantly touching and fidgeting with the condom. Here are some strategies to handle this situation:

First and foremost, it’s crucial to emphasise the importance of safety by letting the client know that they don’t have to worry about the condom as you are keeping an eye on it. This can include reassuring them that it’s secure and that you are trained to ensure it stays in place throughout the sexual activity.

If the client continues to touch or fidget with the condom, try physical intervention to block their access to it. This could involve holding their arms down or distracting them with other parts of your body. By positioning yourself in a strategic way, you can physically prevent the client from touching the condom, while keeping the sexual experience going.

Another strategy that may be effective is positioning yourself in front of a mirror, which can allow both you and the client to keep an eye on the condom and their hands. This not only helps to prevent the client from tampering with the condom but also lets you see any abnormal behaviour that could be cause for concern.

In the event that the client removes or breaks the condom, it’s imperative to get away from them immediately. Be assertive and clear in stating your boundaries and discontinue the sexual activity. 

A client holding a condom whilst his escort is on the bed waiting for him
A client holding a condom whilst his escort is on the bed waiting for him

Clients who choose not to use condoms

Clients who refuse to wear condoms are a common issue that many sex workers encounter. Dealing with difficult clients who don’t prioritize safe sex can be a daunting task, but there are strategies that can help. It’s essential to have a plan in place to address this situation, and it’s crucial to prioritize your safety and well-being.

Some clients may have excuses for not wearing condoms, such as sensitivity or a lack of feeling. It’s important to be prepared with non-latex condoms and novelty options to offer as alternatives. Having a variety of options available shows that you take their concerns seriously and care about their experience.

However, it’s also important to be assertive in your response to their excuses. Make it clear that condom use is non-negotiable and that safe sex is a top priority. If a client continues to resist, it’s important to reaffirm consent boundaries by explaining that condom use is a hard requirement for your services, and that continued refusal will result in discontinuing the encounter.

During sexual encounters, make sure to stay vigilant and aware to ensure that the condom is in place and being used correctly. Try to arrange positions and activities that make it harder for clients to remove the condom to increase the protection offered. If you do encounter a difficult client who refuses to comply with safe sex practices, it’s important to discontinue the encounter immediately and seek out support or safety resources if needed.

Intoxicated clients

Dealing with intoxicated clients is a common challenge for sex workers. Intoxicated clients can pose a risk to both the safety and comfort of sex workers, which is why it’s crucial to have a plan in place to manage these situations and minimize any potential harm.

One important strategy for handling intoxicated clients is to ensure their safety and your own. This means assessing their level of intoxication before the booking and taking steps to ensure that they are not too impaired to consent or engage in activities safely. It may also involve seeking support or assistance from security or law enforcement, if necessary.

Another approach is redirecting intoxicated clients and managing their behaviour during bookings. This may mean setting boundaries around certain activities or positions to reduce the chances of accidents or injuries. It may also involve using active listening skills and assertiveness to help the client calm down or focus on the experiences without posing a risk to their or your safety.

To monitor the client’s alcohol intake, it is important to remain observant of their behaviour during the booking. Look for signs of dizziness, slurred speech or difficulty with coordination as these could indicate significant levels of intoxication. Evaluate their situation and whether they can safely perform in their intoxicated state and act accordingly.

It’s also important to evaluate whether future bookings with intoxicated clients are something to consider. If the client’s behaviour is consistently problematic, it may be best to avoid future bookings with them. It is also crucial to document the incident for future reference and report them to respective authorities if necessary.

Drunk man who is planning to visit an escort shortly
Drunk man who is planning to visit an escort shortly

Rough or Annoying Clients

Dealing with rough or annoying clients can be challenging, but it is important to establish clear boundaries and communicate what is and is not acceptable. Clients may push boundaries knowingly or unknowingly, so it is crucial to redirect them to ensure both your safety and comfort.

One of the most effective ways to handle difficult clients is by setting clear boundaries early on. When communicating with your potential clients, make sure to establish what is and is not acceptable before making any agreements. Establishing these personal and professional boundaries upfront can help prevent clients from testing your limits during the booking.

Some common boundaries may include no biting or marking the skin, condom use, and not overstaying your booking time. These boundaries should always be established before meeting the client and should be clearly communicated throughout the interaction.

If a client does not respect your established boundaries, you have every right to end the booking. Your safety, comfort, and well-being are top priorities, and you should never compromise them for the sake of a booking.

When dealing with a difficult client, maintaining a positive and objective attitude is crucial. Remain calm and professional throughout the interaction, and clearly communicate the boundaries. Redirect the client back to what has been agreed upon and remind them of your boundaries if necessary.

Clients Who Fall in Love

Clients falling in love with sex workers is a common scenario in the sex industry. While some clients can maintain a respectful and healthy business relationship, others may become infatuated with their chosen worker, leading to stalker-like activities that can be alarming. It’s crucial to have clear boundaries in place to manage such bookings in a professional and safe manner.

If a client declares that they are in love with you, it’s important to remain firm but gentle in your response. One way to handle the situation is to refer them to another worker who may be a better fit for their needs. Alternatively, you can explain that the nature of your profession requires you to maintain a professional relationship with your clients and that your boundaries must be respected at all times.

In some cases, you may need to be more direct with the client and remind them that you are married with children, or that a romantic relationship between a sex worker and client is not possible. Regardless of the approach, it’s essential to remain professional and compassionate when addressing the situation.

It’s also important to seek support from management if necessary. Sex work can be a challenging industry to navigate, and having a strong support system can help you manage difficult situations like this. In some cases, a client may become aggressive or threatening, and it’s essential to have protocols in place to ensure your safety and well-being.

When a client declares their love for an escort, it can be an uncomfortable and challenging situation. As an escort, it’s essential always to maintain professionalism. Remain calm, and be clear with your response to the client. Remember, while it’s crucial to be respectful of the client’s feelings, it’s just as important to set clear boundaries.

Being assertive is critical when dealing with such a situation. It’s crucial to communicate in a way that shows the client respect while still being clear about what you are and aren’t willing to do. For example, you may explain, “I appreciate your feelings towards me, but I am a professional. As an escort, I cannot have romantic relationships with my clients. It’s important to respect the boundaries that I have in place.”

Additionally, it’s important to put boundaries in place for future bookings with that client. If you’re not comfortable with continuing to work with the client, communicate this openly and professionally. If you are willing to continue working with the client, make sure that your boundaries are clear and understood.

Flowers given to an escort he has fallen in love with
Flowers given to an escort he has fallen in love with

Customers Seeking to Save an Escort.

As an escort, you may encounter clients who have a misguided desire to ‘save’ you. They may offer you help or assistance that seems well-intentioned but could potentially lead to a loss of control over both your professional and personal life. However, it’s crucial to handle these clients with professionalism and care, while still maintaining clear boundaries.

First and foremost, it’s important to consider for yourself what help or assistance you truly need. Keep in mind that accepting an offer from a client may compromise your independence and autonomy. Therefore, any offers that seem too good to be true should be carefully considered before accepting them. In most cases, if something is too good to be true, it probably is. Be sure to reject any offers that seem like they come with strings attached.

Establishing clear boundaries is one of the most critical factors to consider when dealing with ‘savior’ clients. Maintain a professional relationship with clients at all times and avoid crossing into a personal relationship. If a client insists on crossing those boundaries, redirect the conversation or end the interaction.

It’s crucial to listen to your instincts and prioritize your safety. If you feel uncomfortable at any point during an interaction with a ‘savior’ client, it’s important to trust your gut and end the conversation. These clients may not always have harmful intentions, but characterising an escort as someone in need of saving can become a dangerous power dynamic.

Clients Who Insult Escorts

Unfortunately, as a sex worker, it’s not uncommon to encounter clients who feel entitled to insult or belittle us. However, it’s essential to maintain a professional demeanour and avoid reacting in the moment. Instead, calmly and respectfully let the client know that their behaviour is unacceptable.

It’s crucial to communicate with the client about their behaviour and let them know that if they do not change their tone and language, the booking will have to end early. Remember to stay polite and professional during this conversation, as the goal is to de-escalate the situation rather than to retaliate or pick a fight.

If a client decides to post a negative review or insult you on a forum, it’s best to politely reach out to the moderator and ask them to handle the situation. Reporting the incident is the best course of action, as moderators can remove the negative review or delete the harmful content.

Whether you work independently, for an escort agency or in a brothel, it is essential to inform either your management or other workers of the situation. Keeping others informed will help protect you as well as your colleagues from any future negative interactions with the same client.

Clients With Hygiene Issues

Personal hygiene is an essential aspect of the client-escort relationship. Both parties benefit from proper hygiene practices, and it is crucial to communicate the importance of this without making the client feel uncomfortable.

To ensure that your client is as clean as possible, you can offer options like providing liquid soap or subtly suggesting that they need to sparkle when they come out of the shower. This will help them understand that proper cleaning is expected, without confronting them directly.

Unfortunately, some clients may still have hygiene issues despite washing themselves. In such cases, it’s important to be prepared with alternative solutions. One option is to provide baby wipes or a wet face cloth, which can be gently used to clean the areas that need attention. You can even turn it into a naughty nurse roleplay by giving your client a sexy bed-bath while he gets seduced in his hospital bed!

Remember to respect yourself and your health by not being afraid to ask clients to clean themselves properly. It’s a simple matter of hygiene, and every client should understand the importance of respecting themselves and their escort.

Indiscreet clients

As an escort, discretion is a vital aspect of the job, and it is critical to set clear expectations with clients to ensure their behaviour aligns with these standards. Discretion is not only about maintaining your privacy and reputation as an escort but also ensuring that your clients’ privacy is protected.

To ensure discretion, discuss with your clients the importance of not using explicit language or posting graphic reviews online. Instruct them to be quiet when entering or leaving a brothel or incall apartment, and remind them not to approach you in public, whether during bookings or outside of the client-escort relationship.

If a client is indiscreet before, during, or after a booking, it is within your rights as an escort to discuss their behaviour with them. Communication is key in such situations, and it’s important to provide clear feedback on what’s acceptable and what’s not.

Remember that you need to model this behaviour yourself and be aware of the standards you expect from your clients. As an escort, you should be aware of your public behaviour and ensure that it is discreet at all times.

An escort covering her ears due to her client being loud and indiscreet
An escort covering her ears due to her client being loud and indiscreet

Redirecting Clients To Other Parts Of Your Body

As an escort, one of the most important skills you’ll develop is the ability to redirect difficult clients while still maintaining control of the session. This is crucial in order to avoid offending clients, potentially damaging the relationship, and most importantly, ensuring your safety.

Redirecting a client should be done in a way that doesn’t break the mood or scene that you’ve both established. One way to do this is to redirect their attention to a part of your body that you’re comfortable with being touched, or by giving them instructions that will keep them engaged. For example, in the heat of the moment you may have a clients who wants to touch or play with your anus, but you don’t feel comfortable with this. 

Another important aspect to consider is being in a position of control. You can suggest to the client what to do, which keeps you in charge of the situation and helps you manage any potential red flags. It’s important to remember that while you want to provide the client with the experience they desire, your boundaries must be respected and maintained at all times.

Recognizing red flags is an important part of handling difficult clients. Red flags could range from inappropriate comments, to aggressive behaviour or anything that makes you feel uncomfortable or unsafe. It’s important to be aware of these red flags and take steps to prioritize your safety, which could include redirecting or ending the session early.

Work With An Escort Agency Who Deals With Difficult Clients for You!

It can be incredibly difficult to deal with difficult clients as an escort. Often, these clients will not understand the boundaries of a professional relationship and can be demanding, disrespectful, or even verbally abusive. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by dealing with such clients on your own, it may be worth considering working with an escort agency that deals with difficult clients for you.

Working with an agency can help you maintain control of your sessions and can provide additional security. They will be able to screen clients more thoroughly and provide professional support, which will help ensure that the client is respectful of your boundaries and understands that you are a professional. They can also be on hand to offer advice or assistance should any difficulties arise during a booking. They provide security drivers who wait discretely outside, should you need their swift help. They can also get you out of difficult situations quickly and safely.

If a difficult clients wants to book you, the agency can pretend that your already fully booked or have had to finish work early. They handle it in a professional manner as to not cause an issue with the clients but maintain your wishes to not see the clients again. 


In conclusion, handling difficult clients as an escort requires a combination of communication, discretion, and the ability to redirect them in a way that maintains control of the session. By following these tips, you can ensure a positive experience for yourself and your clients. However, we recommend that you work with an agency who will deal with difficult clients for you.

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